Today’s messages are from my Spirit Guide, Kaine. There are some things he’d really like to share with all of you. ❤
What would you like to talk about today?
Happiness. Imagine your happiness like a flower growing and blooming beautifully for all to see. It is yours and yours alone, you look after that flower, you nurture it, you water it, you make sure it receives all the sunlight it needs to grow. There are times where others come along your path and they may gift you with say nutrients to help your flower grow, or a post for it to lean upon and to gain strength from. This flower is like your happiness. You nurture your own happiness yourself by following what you enjoy, what makes you happy and what excites you. And there are other people who come along and they cheer you up even more by saying something or doing something. You both go on an adventure together to find your own happiness and build upon it.
The reason why I am stressing that it is YOUR happiness and yours alone is because you can feel at times that another person’s happiness is also yours to look after. Feeling this way can cause you to lose touch with your own self and your own happiness as you continue to put others before you. You may stay much later than you would prefer at an event just because you worry that if you leave your friends will be disappointed, feel sad, and may even leave early as well because you left. But, as you may have experienced already, your friends appreciate your concern for their happiness, truly they do, but they want you to do what makes you happy. If they knew that you stayed to keep them company, to make sure they were still enjoying themselves but you gave up your own happiness to do that, they would feel upset because they want the same for you as you want for them – to be happy with whatever you do in your life!
So when a situation like this occurs, where you choose to let go of your own happiness in the fear that if you follow what excites you that it will ruin someone else’s happiness, please try to remember that it is okay to follow what makes you happy. If you would rather just have that quiet night in instead of going out to that bar, then just say so to those you care about, and you’ll notice that they’ll be happy for you because you are doing what you want to do, what will make you happy.
And so, another topic I would like to discuss along with happiness is this business of setting up boundaries. Now, you all have boundaries up, some paper thin walls, whereas some are thick walls made out of concrete. Some boundaries are good, they are necessary. You need to honour yourself and how you feel. If you do not feel comfortable with a certain idea or situation that is presented to you, then you have every right to admit that and respect your feelings and yourself. You can say no. As a friend of Katherine’s has once said, “Don’t say yes unless you know you can say no.”
Please let go of that fear that people will leave you if you begin to trust yourself and say no to things that make you feel uncomfortable. They will love you just the same, if not even more because you are showing them that you still want them in your life, but that you also need to respect your own self and what you feel comfortable with. If you do not want a friend coming over and spending the night at your place, without giving you any notice beforehand, then just gently say so to them next time. Explain to them in a gentle manner that you need your own space and that they are more than welcome to spend some time with you, however if they want to spend the night that you will require more notice in the future.
These are healthy boundaries that you may set up. These are ways for you to respect yourself and to follow your happiness.
This is what I would like to say today. Thank you, each and every one of you for trusting in your own self and following your own happiness in every single thing you do during your days and during your life. It is a pleasure as always to work with all of you and to help guide you to your own true selves.
I hope you all enjoyed the reading today! It’s an honour to be able to pass these messages on to all of you. Thank you all for your constant support and love! ❤