Honouring and Respecting Yourself: Messages from Isadora a Purple Dragon

Hey everyone,

Today’s messages are from another dragon friend of mine. She’s a beautiful purple dragon. ❤ I hope you all enjoy the reading!

Hi, my friend, I was wondering if you could explain who you are to everyone?

Hello, Katherine, and to everyone else. I am Isadora, the partner to the red dragon Katherine is also friends with. It is a pleasure to be able to work with all of you today. 

What would you like to talk about today?

I would like to talk about how to honour yourself and be true to who you are. This is the idea that when someone or something makes you feel uncomfortable or uneasy that you figure out why it makes you feel that way. You decide after that if you should continue on with this situation or trust in yourself and how you feel and pass. There is nothing wrong with saying no at times. People will not like you less because you choose to say no to a night out and decide to stay in on your own or with a partner. As a friend of Katherine’s has once said – “Don’t say yes unless you know you can say no” and this applies to anything you do in your life. If someone asks you for a favour or to do something and it doesn’t excite you to do it, if you would rather do something else, then do your best to let go of feeling bad if you choose to say no. 

Do the things that make you happy. And if you choose to help someone out when you are not feeling 100% up to it, then that is okay. Maybe the day will unfold into something unexpectedly wonderful by choosing to say yes. 

We ask that you take a moment to look into why you feel uncomfortable or uneasy about a situation because we want you to learn more about yourself. By learning more about what makes you happy, and what your are not keen on, you will be able to be true to yourself even more so afterwards. You learn to love even more of yourself as you recognize what you enjoy doing and what you prefer to let go of and pass on doing. You can appreciate why you feel uncomfortable and uneasy.

Could you give us an example?

Yes of course, my friend. Let us say that you were invited to a grand party, that it was supposed to be the best party of the year – or so your friends are telling you as they invite you to join them. What if on that night you would much rather enjoy a relaxing night in because you feel uncomfortable around that many people? What if you feel anxiety or worry or stress about the idea of having to socialize and communicate with all of these party-goers? Every part of you is saying ‘No, I don’t want to go,’ but you feel as if you have made a commitment to your friends because you have said yes already. Or maybe you haven’t said yes but you still feel bad about the idea of saying no because you worry that you will let them down.

What do we want you to do in situations like this? We ask that you take a moment and let go of the worries, the stresses, and the fears you have associated with saying no, just for 5 minutes to start with. We understand that it can be difficult to stop worrying at times. Once you just let go of those more negative feelings just ask yourself – What excites you more? Going out to this party because you want to go? Or staying home? If you answer to yourself that you would rather stay home then we ask that you try and honour yourself and how you feel. We ask that you try and just tell your friends that as much as they were all looking forward to going together, and as much as you were looking forward to it at the beforehand, that right now you feel as if you would rather just have a relaxing night it. 

Now, they will not leave you, they will not think less of you for respecting yourself. Sure, they may tease you and ask you if you’re sure, but they mean well. They just worry that you’ll miss out on the fun if you do not go. But your fun is in relation to what you find exciting to do. It is not related to what others feel and decide would be fun for you. They are not you. You are the only you you will ever be. 

Thank you for that example. Is there anything more you would like to talk about today?

Yes, there is, thank you for asking. 

When we ask that you explore why things make you feel uncomfortable or uneasy we do not wish for you to get stuck and focused on the negative. Go easy on yourself and be gentle. We are only asking that you explore why you feel this way so you can better understand your own self. We would prefer it if you focused on what does excite you and what does make you happy and you love doing.

What we would like you to do while working on understanding yourself is this: Say, for example, you go to a club with some friends, you were sort of curious about going and it seemed like it could be fun to go out. But you find out that you dislike the noise, or you dislike the crowds, or that you dislike the dancing. You decide, well, this isn’t for me. And that is okay. We don’t want you to focus on the things you didn’t like about the club, we just want you to understand that you followed something that seemed like it could be fun and it turned out to be not very enjoyable for you, which is perfectly okay. And so now you understand that maybe going on clubs is not something that excites you. So we ask that you take this new understanding and then begin exploring what does excite you.  If you did not enjoy the loud noise for example, maybe the idea of going to a quiet pub with some friends is more exciting to you?

Take the pleasant aspects of the situation and expand upon them. Ask yourself – Well, what would make this even more enjoyable and even more fun to me? 

Thank you, Katherine, for delivering these messages for me.

Thank you, each of you, for your constant love and support! I hope you all have a wonderful day, even and night!

Blessed Be,

Katherine Everett

Happiness and Healthy Boundaries: Messages from my Spirit Guide, Kaine

Hey everyone,

Today’s messages are from my Spirit Guide, Kaine. There are some things he’d really like to share with all of you. ❤

What would you like to talk about today?

Happiness. Imagine your happiness like a flower growing and blooming beautifully for all to see. It is yours and yours alone, you look after that flower, you nurture it, you water it, you make sure it receives all the sunlight it needs to grow. There are times where others come along your path and they may gift you with say nutrients to help your flower grow, or a post for it to lean upon and to gain strength from. This flower is like your happiness. You nurture your own happiness yourself by following what you enjoy, what makes you happy and what excites you. And there are other people who come along and they cheer you up even more by saying something or doing something. You both go on an adventure together to find your own happiness and build upon it.

The reason why I am stressing that it is YOUR happiness and yours alone is because you can feel at times that another person’s happiness is also yours to look after. Feeling this way can cause you to lose touch with your own self and your own happiness as you continue to put others before you. You may stay much later than you would prefer at an event just because you worry that if you leave your friends will be disappointed, feel sad, and may even leave early as well because you left. But, as you may have experienced already, your friends appreciate your concern for their happiness, truly they do, but they want you to do what makes you happy. If they knew that you stayed to keep them company, to make sure they were still enjoying themselves but you gave up your own happiness to do that, they would feel upset because they want the same for you as you want for them – to be happy with whatever you do in your life! 

So when a situation like this occurs, where you choose to let go of your own happiness in the fear that if you follow what excites you that it will ruin someone else’s happiness, please try to remember that it is okay to follow what makes you happy. If you would rather just have that quiet night in instead of going out to that bar, then just say so to those you care about, and you’ll notice that they’ll be happy for you because you are doing what you want to do, what will make you happy.

And so, another topic I would like to discuss along with happiness is this business of setting up boundaries. Now, you all have boundaries up, some paper thin walls, whereas some are thick walls made out of concrete. Some boundaries are good, they are necessary. You need to honour yourself and how you feel. If you do not feel comfortable with a certain idea or situation that is presented to you, then you have every right to admit that and respect your feelings and yourself. You can say no. As a friend of Katherine’s has once said, “Don’t say yes unless you know you can say no.” 

Please let go of that fear that people will leave you if you begin to trust yourself and say no to things that make you feel uncomfortable. They will love you just the same, if not even more because you are showing them that you still want them in your life, but that you also need to respect your own self and what you feel comfortable with. If you do not want a friend coming over and spending the night at your place, without giving you any notice beforehand, then just gently say so to them next time. Explain to them in a gentle manner that you need your own space and that they are more than welcome to spend some time with you, however if they want to spend the night that you will require more notice in the future. 

These are healthy boundaries that you may set up. These are ways for you to respect yourself and to follow your happiness. 

This is what I would like to say today. Thank you, each and every one of you for trusting in your own self and following your own happiness in every single thing you do during your days and during your life. It is a pleasure as always to work with all of you and to help guide you to your own true selves. 

I hope you all enjoyed the reading today! It’s an honour to be able to pass these messages on to all of you. Thank you all for your constant support and love! ❤

Blessed Be,

Katherine Everett